Many organizations and corporations are seeking that “just right” team member. Individuals are exploring new opportunities to discover where they fit. If you put the wrong person in, you could pay the price financially, as well as diminish the morale of the existing team members. What do you look for and how do you gauge it?
The process for the perfect connection should not be randomly, but intentionally pursued.
I would submit that in order to identify a self-disciplined, entrepreneurial-spirited prospective team member you may consider looking at a few indicators:
1. Does anything in their experience indicate an individual achievement of a project? A team accomplishment? A trend of self-attainment? An entrepreneurial mindset?
2. Can you explore this further in an interview? Ask them to describe these scenarios in detail. Dig deeper into their mental processes.
3. Can you give them an assessment that delineates these characteristics and isolates them?
4. Can you follow up on references that confirm these findings?
5. Can your team cross-interview them and compare notes for character, competency, and chemistry with the team?
These are some of the elements I would recommend in order to get the right person on the bus as Collins (2001) notes in his book, Good to Great. You must first learn how to select the RIGHT people for your organization or you will be constantly micromanaging every issue and putting fires out.
On the other hand, you may be re-building the right team and want to create a sense of ownership culture but how do you do it? I have provided a pdf presentation below of Dr. Simecek (2008), Leadership is Building an Ownership Culture, to help assist you in implementing this new presence in your organization.
Think: Am I the right person that I am seeking my company team? In other words, are you projecting the right image? Do you model what you expect?
Write: Take 5 minutes and write 10 words and 3 questions that will help you find the right fit for your team.
Do: Discuss this in your planning meetings with your existing team as you create a profile for each position you seek.
Question for discussion: What are some of the ideas you have about finding the right person for a team? What traits or characteristics would you look for?
Collins, J.C. (2001) Good to great: Why some companies make the leap and others don’t. HarperCollins: New York
Simecek, J. (2008) Leadership in building an ownership culture. The Ohio Employee Ownership Center. Kent State University. April 2008. Retrieved from http://dept.kent.edu/oeoc/oeoclibrary/Conf2008JaySimecekDevelopingOwnershipMentality.pdf
Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn. -Benjamin Franklin, American Founding Father & Statesman
I am not a teacher but an awakener. -Robert Frost, Poet Laureate
I have observed many different types of life coaches and coaching businesses but very few have produced a coaching model and strategy that shows how or what they really do. Many purport themselves as coaches or mentors but when they are asked what coaching style, model, or system they utilize, they are hard pressed to produce one.
There are few key strategies I have designed and different combinations which can be employed. Most importantly, you should apply them based on the individual needs of your client. So, whether you are a life coach that needs more insight and definition in your field or you are seeking a professional coach to help you achieve greater success in your life, here are my Core Four©Life Coaching Models with the acronym I.Q. M.D.:
Instructional – (Objective: Skill attainment) Strategic; skill-based
This particular coaching style is instructional based which utilizes guidance techniques that assists the mentee into new knowledge levels or insights. The coach may possess an expertise and acumen in a particular sector or field that the client has not yet acquired so the coach will use training strategies to scaffold the way to higher learning levels.
Example: An experienced cyclist coaches a new rider in the fundamentals of cycling, how to buy the right equipment, and how to become a great cyclist. He goes riding with the newcomer and helps them in their techniques and increases their skills.
Quizzical- (Objective: Personal discovery) Socratic; inquiry-based
The quizzical style of life coaching puts the client in a reflective and evaluative mode for deeper self-discovery. The coach utilizes a battery of probing questions which assists the client to think deeply about the processes, cycles, and habits of their lives. The client may uncover hidden issues, blockages, and mental obstacles that have limited them from attaining their desired outcomes in the past. Through a series of soul-searching questions, the mentee discovers new possibility patterns and explores new innovative ways to achieve their objectives and goals.
Example: An executive has hit a mental wall with her staff’s productivity and she doesn’t understand why she gets so frustrated with her team not meeting their objectives.
Motivational- (Objective: Motivation generation) Encouraging; supportive-based
Motivational coaching can be delivered in various forms, ranging from words of encouragement and affirmation to a strong voice in the mentee’s life to push towards a greater achievement. The motivational coach is there to be your best supporter and your biggest fan.
Example: This may be like a physical trainer there with you during an excruciating workout talking you through that last rep or a speech coach giving you a pep talk before a big presentation.
Directional- (Objective: Accountability evaluation) Assessing; accountability-based
A directional form of coaching is one of support and accountability. The relationship is geared towards the client initiating and setting goals that they want to achieve in their lives and the coach being an “accountability partner” in their journey. This might also be displayed through strategies such as written objectives and goals, life charting, behavior modification techniques, etc. to accomplish a task.
Example: A man wants to lose 50 pounds to be healthier, stronger, and be in the best shape of his life.
Use these models as simple guidelines for your practice or discuss them the next time you are seeking a professional coach to help you be the best you can be and reach your potential! –John
Write: Write out your own personal coaching strategy and/or philosophy. Memorize it in order to share it confidently with your clients.
Think: Do you have a system of coaching? What techniques do you employ? What is your takeaway from reading this post?
Do: After writing out your system of coaching, verbalize it to at least three people this week to become more comfortable explaining it.
Question: What are your thoughts about these strategies and how would you apply them?
With an estimated 600 million viewers, one man’s imagination becomes a reality. Apollo 11 astronaut Buzz Aldrin walks on the surface of the Moon at Tranquility Base, July 20, 1969. Photograph: Neil Armstrong/NASA/Corbis
Imagination. We foster it in children but discourage it in adults, it seems. Why? Maybe because years of disappointment and dreams unfulfilled lurk in our own souls. When a child has a vivid imagination they roll play. In their world, inanimate objects represent real, living characters. Dressing up like your dreams is expected.
Do you dress up and talk to yourself in the mirror? Try roll playing some. In sales they do it all the time. As a child, I pretended a lot and daydreamed about being an astronaut. I watched that historic walk on the moon and saw myself with Neal Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin with Apollo 11. I collected the stamps at the Gulf gas station, I drank the Tang, I made every picture I drew about spaceships, and I pretended walking on the moon acting out my part well. Maybe that’s why I was in theater in school? No doubt!
Our imagination has a powerful effect in and on our lives. We can envision good things and they touch our emotions, our attitude, and our psyche. Have you ever played out a scenario in your mind when you were fearful, anxious, or possibly in a “bad time” in your life? Did your mind run rampant and display pictures of people and possibilities of what MIGHT happen? Sure, we all have done it.
For some, their imagination and dreams have gone to the valley of bones to die. Busyness buries imaginative thought.
IMPORTANT IDEA: Have a personal Dream Room, an Imagination Wall. Cut out pieces from magazines and books with pictures where you want to travel, things you want to accomplish, and items you want to have. GET THE PICTURE? Tape them up and create a collage of your imagination.
Habit 2 of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey states, “Begin with the end in mind”. This habit is based on dream-like imagination. “Habit 2 is based on imagination–the ability to envision in your mind what you cannot at present see with your eyes” (FranklinCovey, 2013).
Where will your imagination take you today?
Think: What can I do to put more imagination in my life?
Say: I am a big dreamer. I am making more time and space in my schedule to imagine big things for my life and my future.
Do: Carve out time and a special location for your dreamspace. This may be a chair, a closet, a hiding place to spend some time in creative, imaginative thought. As well, create a dream board or wall to cut out things and post them. Imagine BIG!
Question for comments: How do you envision your future? Do you still have a “wild imagination” in your life?
Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind (2013). FranklinCovey online. Retreived from https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits-habit2.php
“To have distinctiveness is to believe in the distinctiveness of everyone else, because distinctiveness is not mine but is God’s gift by which he gives being to me, and he indeed gives to all, gives being to all. (p. 271)” -Soren Kierkegaard, Works of Love
“A man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before the great.” Proverbs 18:16, ESV 2001
Research points to the fact that varying levels of job dissatisfaction are as high as 80%. This is one obvious indicator that individuals are not only unhappy on their jobs or in their careers but are not living our their life’s purpose or utilizing their gifts to the fullest. Susan Adams (2012), a Forbes staff writer indicated, “Right Management ran the online survey between April 16 and May 15, and culled responses from 411 workers in the U.S. and Canada. Only 19% said they were satisfied with their jobs. Another 16% said they were ‘somewhat satisfied.’ But the rest, nearly two-thirds of respondents, said they were not happy at work” (Forbes.com).
What does that have to do with gift mining you may ask?
One of the greatest challenges in your life is to unearth and disburse from the treasure of your personal #giftedness, your unique gifts.Your fulfillment, happiness, and career satisfaction teeters on this very concept.
However, if you don’t know what they are then how can you distribute them? You cannot give what you do not possess. Ever known someone to be unhappy and not know why? We all have possibly been there. Not living where we are daily dispensers and pouring out of our inner riches is to drone on just doing our day, one dismal day after another. Get daring with your days!
Reaching your fullest potential hinges on this very idea: Learning how to discover, develop, and deploy your gifts. Time marches on and time will tell my story, your story.
Calling, potential, purpose, and destiny; all these great ideals are buried in the uncharted California Territory of your soul. Will you and I declare our own “Gold Rush” and mine where we are guaranteed to strike it rich? Few will, most will acquiesce but not act.
Gifts are given and gifts are received. Give and it shall be given to you. Have you learned how to draw out of your own gift mine, or are you “re-gifting” another’s gifts?
There are 7 potential ways you can unearth your treasure:
Treasure Clue #1-Draw from the wisdom of those who know you best; ask them
You have not because you ask not. Inquire from those who will give you honest and insightful feedback.
Treasure Clue#2-Delve into personal assessments, tests, instruments, & resources
Go online and get help. Talk to a guidance counselor, career counselor, or psychologist to get resources & assistance.
Treasure Clue #3-Devote time to personal development courses & training sessions
Attend a conference, seminar, workshop, or self-help session. Ask a lot of questions. Set a date on the calendar to attend.
Treasure Clue #4-Determine to allot time for self-awareness & self-reflective moments
Make a date with yourself. Turn on some soft music, get a glass or wine, cup of tea or coffee, and begin writing.
Treasure Clue #5-Dedicate time to read & listen to self-discovery books and self-help materials
Have a set reading/listening time and work in these materials for personal growth.
Treasure Clue #6-Devise a personal growth plan with a life coach or mentor
Grab up your phone right now and call them! Mentor, minister, or life coach. Set the day and time. I’m here to help so email me. You are important to me!
Treasure Clue #7-Deem yourself worthy of greater potential & a greater future
Break the self-defeating, self-condemning thoughts and patterns in your life. See a therapist. Catharsis is good. You are great and greatness is in you!
Think: What will you do next to uncover more about yourself? When will you devote time to finding your purpose? Set an appointment with yourself to begin digging deep.
Say: Use affirming statements over your life such as, “I am becoming aware of my personal uniqueness and discovering my God-given gifts!” or, “I am learning more about who I am and all the great things inside me. I am discovering more about myself everyday and how to fulfill my purpose!”
Do: Consider keeping a personal log of your travels. You unique expedition is awaiting you so begin this week writing about it.
Question for our dialogue: What activities or resources have helped you unearth your personal gifts & #giftedness? Please comment and let’s chat!
Adams, Susan. (2012) New survey: Majority of employees dissatisfied. Forbes.com. Retrieved from http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2012/05/18/new-survey-majority-of-employees-dissatisfied/
Part 1 of a 3-Part Series
Part 1-Your Giftedness Awakening
“Let a man examine himself…” Paul, the Apostle
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” -Aristotle, Greek Philosopher
“A wise man travels to discover himself.” -James Russell Lowell, American Romantic Poet
Personal giftedness is a powerful and liberating topic and I love to speak about it. It’s my hot button, if you will. There are several important things to note when you “travel” to discover your distinct uniqueness. Those who reached this new spiritual stratosphere have engaged in what I call some of the “A Levels of Self-Discovery”. See if you have entertained one or all of them.
This is the stage in which something is triggered that “opens your eyes” to your state in life.
You have that epiphany, revelation, vision, dream, or V-8 moment (knocking themselves upside the head.) and clarity comes. It may come with great joy and elation.
Deep reflection and contemplation enter. It also may bring tears, sadness and overwhelming feelings of loss and regret. (Don’t stay there though.)
You experience a myriad of feelings that ebb and flow. For Georg Fredrick Handel, the great composer of Handel’s Messiah, exclaimed “I did think I see all heaven before me, and the Great God Himself!” No doubt, it is a unique spiritual encounter that transforms you.
A new found understanding (enlightenment) opens the door to more sensitivity. Here you are seeing things through a different set of eyes. Self-awareness is heightened and you have attained a new level of insight. You are viewing things from a different perspective and paradigm at this precipice.
This may mean not only an awareness of who you are, but why you did what you did, how you function and live, your current reality or state, what your future looks like, and/or things in the light of God, spirituality, and eternity!
It is in this moment you ask the BIG questions like:
-Why did I do that or live like that?
-Why do I do the things I do?
-Why am I here?
-What is my purpose?
-Can I live a life of significance?
In your mind you’re now assured of this: It’s time for a change!
In describing his hierarchy of needs, psychologist Abraham Maslow pointed out that once our survival needs (food, shelter, etc.) are met, we begin an expedition of self-actualization, self-discovery, or becoming that new man or woman that we’ve dreamed of becoming; however, the process and takes time.
We begin asking those paramount questions in our lives that I previously mentioned and we start our “journey of becoming”. (The older we get it seems the stronger they pull on us.)
Here is where individuals either make the necessary changes to become more or withdraw into discouragement, depression, and despair. There are few that never recover, sadly enough.
Some retract because they feel such intense feelings of loss and hopeless that they need help from a counselor or therapist to find their way again. Imagine for a moment going decades in the wrong direction of your dreams and “waking up” to find your much older and the time you’ve lost or wasted? Sighs come by the dozens now.
Still many move forward and just need a bridge, a goal, a plan, a mentor, a coach to redirect their focus. Nonetheless, in their minds, change is inevitable. Insert YOU HERE.
(Part 2, Coming soon! Digging in Your Giftedness Goldmine!)
Have you had an A level occur in your life? What caused you to start your journey of becoming more? I’d love to hear your story or comment!
You have entered the motivation zone. This subject is talked about in almost every field and area such as neuroscience, psychology, education, sports, writing (I need some motivation right about now), business, families, politics, nutrition, fitness, etc. and I could go on and on and fill pages. Motivation is an endless topic of discussion! I am an educator, so we talk about motivating students at every level of academia…ALL…THE…TIME. How do we get them motivated to learn, pursue, advance, and become more?
Personally, when I think about motivation, I recall the old movie, “Kung Fu”. (You’ll laugh here or scratch your head, depending on your age!)
Picture This: A young Buddhist monk is with his master who is holding a pebble in his flat, open hand and outstretched in front of the young pupil. “Grasshopper, when you can take this pebble from my hand, you may leave”, calmly exhorts the Shaolin Master. Of course, the youngster tries and fails. And tries, and fails. Years go by, and finally he is wise and deft enough to figure it out and snatch the pebble. WRITER’S NOTE: I would have just popped the bottom of his hand, sent it soaring into the sky, and had a jump fest with the master to get it! Lol!
Okay, okay, back to motivation. Well, for the educator, employer, teacher, parent, etc. that pebble represents MOTIVATION. We’re all trying to snatch it and hold the answer to the age-old question, “How can/do we consistently motivate human beings (big ones and little ones)?” or more importantly, “How do we keep ourselves continually motivated?”
I’m glad you asked Grasshopper! (Said like a Chinese Kung-Fu Master) My thimble-full of knowledge, education, & experience working with clients, employers, non-profits, churches, leaders, and my own children has shown me that motivation is individualized. No one-size-fits-all method works for everyone and the research points to this as well.
Two Types of Motivation Thinking
Intrinsic/Internal Motivation-Things that personally motivate us come from the inside; your blueprint.
By Design: It is an innate giftedness that we are predisposed with that tie in with our make-up. If you are motivated by the reward of affirmation, money and gifts might be a good payoff, but you’ll always go back to seeking affirmation. (Books to check out: The Power of Uniqueness by Miller & Hendricks, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman; you can Google it for several other resources on this topic.)
Extrinsic/External Motivation-Things that personally motivate us come from the outside: your training, teachers & self-discipline.
By Development: Self-motivation can be taught and is a part of an overall self-efficacy. This is performance driven and reflects back on our behavioral, psychological fathers such as Pavlov, Watson, and Skinner-the Behaviorists. (There are many books & papers available on this online; See Behaviorism, self-motivation, etc.)
How about the idea that it may be both?
YOU may be motivated by factors such as:
-positive affirmation-words of appreciation & approbation
-obtaining physical rewards-cash, gifts, or other stuff
-acts of service
-affection & touch
-self-satisfaction & a sense of accomplishment
-negative emotions-fear, revenge, etc.
-altruism-because it good & right (not a personal or physical reward)
The Risk vs. The Reward
Very few of us are altruistic, very precious few. We do what we do for an outcome or reward. We seek a reward as a result of our hard work, pursuits or goals and want a payoff. If we tap our correct motivation and the reward is handsome enough, we will move towards its attainment.
Next question: Why do some succeed and why do some fail in their motivation? That’s a question really for each individual but here are a few ideas:
-Was it the correct motivational factor for them? Affirmation, acts of service, gifts, etc.
-Did it provide a big enough payoff?
-Did they have personal accountability?
-Do they review their goal(s) often?
-Did they really want the thing being pursued?
-Were there obstacles not taken into account or ascertained?
Ideas to get you (re)motivated
If you are trying to get your mojo in gear to get motivated or re-motivated, please consider exploring what your personal motivation factor is and asking some of these questions of yourself. Once you do this, get a plan together to get back on track immediately with your goals!
Think: What makes me tick? How am I motivated and how can I activate it every time I set or pursue a goal?
Write: In your personal journal or notes, write down what your motivational factor is and how that applies to your dream or a big goal you are pursuing.
Do: Realign your goal(s) with your proper motivation. Ask a relative, colleague, or mentor what they perceive as your motivational factor.
What are your thoughts or ideas about motivation? How are you personally motivated and how has it help you achieve your goals & dreams?
We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise we harden. –Johann Wolfgang von Gothe
Writing about negative mindsets, thought patterns, or mental obstacles that get us “stuck” is like asking, “Hey, can you find out my problems in 5 minutes?” Spoiler Alert: Life’s challenges and hurdles are USUALLY not solved in the time it takes to gobble down a quick breakfast sandwich!
For the sake of brevity though, we will limit this segment to talking about just a few of those hindrances to see what causes us to have dream derailment. So, why do we cast our dreams aside, give up on them, or can’t seem to attain them? First, let me clarify the type of dreams that I am speaking about here.
WHAT THEY (DREAMS) ARE: These are synonymous with life-long, big ambitions and/or great aspirations; like a great pursuit, an influential position, or a super achievement.
WHAT THEY (DREAMS) ARE NOT: The crazy pizza dream you had last night and saw the apocalypse with sugar plum fairies eating Kit Kat bars flying around your head! (Really??) So, if you are looking for an interpretation of these, see a therapist.
Now, “Why haven’t I been able to obtain my dreams?” you may ask. The possibilities are open-ended but I will submit a few categories for your consideration. The dream-killing mindset might be:
1. Surreal-It’s not reliable.
We might have had a cartoon-type dream and it does not fit into a realistic version of life. We might find ourselves at a loss as to how to explain it, let alone accomplish it. When I was little, I wanted to be like Mighty Mouse and save the world, but his costume won’t fit me today. Go figure.
2. Surface-level-It’s not renewable.
It doesn’t touch a heart commitment level in us. We see an advertisement or infomercial and our emotions are accosted. We want it now but have no time-tested devotion to it, so it goes by the way side. When ideas have not depth, they cannot perpetuate and grow.
3. Stiffened-It’s not readjustable.
Dreams must have elasticity. You have to be able to adjust, readjust, scrap parts, rework pieces, and yet still maintain the core structure. Think about it: How many times does an undergrad change their major? (Insert laughter right here.) Yet, they still strive to achieve the overall objective/dream of a college degree. (Applaud here!) Flexibility=Sustainability with a dream.
4. Shocking-It’s not realizable.
Miscalculationus majorus. There are some dreams that take major phases, stages, progressions, and processes to attain. “I want to be an astronaut when I grow up!” is a glorious inspiration to us all however who is going to step up to the little kid and tell him the 36-point gigantic, life-altering plan it takes to get there? Not to mention, the uber intelligence it takes in math and sciences. Possible, yes. Probable, probably not.
5. Subpar-It’s not remarkable.
This is the dream or aspiration that is built up to be more in our minds than it actually is. Maybe parts of it were attained too quickly so it didn’t hold value to us. Then, we abandoned it due to lack of interest or intensity (challenge). Maybe it was a project or task that we quickly engaged in that we did not fully research or understand. When I was young, I thought being a scout was a really big deal (it actually is), but after I got in and saw it from the inside out, I didn’t care to pursue it very long.
6. Sterile-It’s not reproducible.
This is because it’s not a latent passion that drives you to continue it, reproduce it, or work hard to accomplish it. In short, it’s not part of your giftedness, uniqueness, or make up. You won’t continue courting what you do not love. If there’s no fire/fuego, zest, verve to have it, we won’t hang in there during tough times. Game over.
New Game Plan:
THINK: If I gave up on a big dream, what was the cause? Did it fall into one of these categories I just read about? Take a few minutes to think on it and reevaluate whether you’ll pick it up again or trade it in for a better one.
WRITE: Journal how you feel about your past mindset(s), mentally and otherwise, that have held you back from accomplishing your ambitions. Can you possibly see a pattern in your thinking and/or your behavior?
DO: Within the next 48-72 hours, decide what your new or revised plan is to achieve a formerly abandoned goal or dream. Make an outline and start the process immediately toward reclaiming lost ground!
What now? Have you had a dream, goal, aspiration that you’ve left behind? Were your dreams dashed along the rough crags of life? How did you get back on track? Love to hear your thoughts!
Life is a lively process of becoming. -American Gen. Douglas MacArthur
“I am becoming more than I’ve ever dreamed!” should be our daily jubilant proclamation.
It sounds enormously transformative but why are so many individuals living well beneath their potential and just existing, surviving? According to a survey done by Forbes, only approximately 19% of employees were satisfied with the job (Forbes, 2012)! There are many reasons why people are unhappy on their jobs such as a misfit in their positions, lack of personal development, lack of energy and motivation, work overload, stress, and several other possibilities. It’s a domino effect.
The work world needs a “becoming makeover”.
Why do we aspire and daydream about great pursuits and only live to read and watch how others live incredible dream-like lives? We do not really understand or know how take our journey of becoming!
What is becoming? According to the Free Dictionary Online, it is “any process of change”. Three words to especially take note: any, process, & change. Any: This gives the connotation that it applies to all categories, areas, arenas, spheres, of dimensions of life. Process: This is a it-takes-time-to-develop-yourself plan. Instant is no where nearby; no way, no how. Change: a metamorphosis, a transformation, a becoming.
Your becoming road is uniquely you. (Stop comparing.)
My mother told me at 18 that my tastes and mindsets would change as I got older. Did I believe her then? NO WAY! (Come on, you didn’t either.) I was just an ambitious kid…on my way to becoming.
I am 50 years “young” now and if you had told me when I was 20 that it would take 30 years to become who I am today, I would have surely given up; however, little by little, I grew, stretched, developed, learned, and matured. Now, I influence many lives and am respected by leaders. I’ve still not “arrived” but am becoming more every day.
There are no shortcuts on the road to deeply becoming mature, respected, and possessing strong character. It’s strenuous soul-stretching mountain climb!
Think: Take a few reflective minutes to recall how far you’ve come, not how far you have to go. Be grateful. Recite some specific moments of how you have learned, grown; become.
Write: Consider journaling, at least weekly on “My Becoming Process”. Make it a memoir to pass on to your family.
Do: Find a long-time friend or business colleague and ask them, “Could you please tell me the changes you’ve seen in my life? How have you seen me grow personally?” Now, listen.
What have you discovered in your journey of becoming? What would you share with others about it to help them along life’s way?
To have passion, to have a dream, to have a purpose in life. And there are three components to that purpose, one is to find out who you really are, to discover God, the second is to serve other human beings, because we are here to do that and the third is to express your unique talents and when you are expressing your unique talents you lose track of time. – Deepak Chopra
What is “the BIG U”? Uniqueness.
What is uniqueness? It is that innate, idiosyncratic design you are created to be and to do! Your giftedness. Who YOU are.
It pours out through:
Your moxie, mojo, gusto, enthusiasm and fanaticism thrive here.
Your skills and acumen intensify. It’s when you are in your element, your flow; energy seems boundless in this sky-high atmosphere.
Time flies by and you are lost in your world of imagination. Your creative juices surge in this electrically-charged environment. Things are very lucid AND fluid. At this defined moment, you are a super action hero (in your mind, at least) and have the answers, the design, the know-how; although, you may not exactly know how, but you will. You’re determined to figure it out here in your “happy place”, your sweet spot.
“Livin’ large!” and “on the top of your game” are a few of the terms used and the resounding results are astounding results. Achievement is inevitable, both tangible and intangible. You gush, get a rush, get flushed, a holy hush (at this moment I’m feeling quite “Dr. Suess-ish”) and the “BIG U” is coming out of every pore!
Your uniqueness in conversation is when someone hits your “hot button” and it releases a tsunami of words and expressions that could literally take hours to exhaust! Your audience is drinking in from the blast of your giftedness fire hose and caught up in the verbal vortex that you have unleashed on them.
NOW your performance has laser-like focus because this is your M.O. (modus operandi-mode of operation). You are in the moment, bringin’ your A game, and playin’ above the rim. The lid has been lifted and you’re on fire, juiced, uber excited, torched, torqued, locked and loaded, full-throttle, and wide open. (At this point, others may be feeling schooled, owned, and served!) You are deploying your mad ninja skills like a boss with Jedi deftness.
Okay, enough with the slang. Do you get the point? This is not only how you spot your uniqueness but how you can trace it back to events, activities, and achievements that you were showing these signs. Drs. Miller & Hendricks in their book, The Power of Uniqueness (I highly recommend reading this book too!), point out that even your agenda is being driven by it. Your uniqueness is coming out in ways that you could and may see, if you choose to. Will you?
Here are things you can do to further explore and discover your “Big U”:
1. THINK -Sit down and think about your successes, achievements, awards, acknowledgements, or accomplishments. How about what you really do or have done well? Is there a pattern like “I noticed that I thrive when working with others” or “when the pressure of a deadline is on me, I do well and feel awesome!”
2. WRITE -Now, write down 2-3 moments or stellar situations and identify similar patterns. This is how you begin to see the element in which your uniqueness thrives!
3. DO -Take time this week to intentionally recognize and employ your uniqueness. Notice how you exhibit higher levels of intensity, engagement, and performance? Now, “Wash. Rinse. Repeat.”
What is the way you have displayed your uniqueness? What pattern(s) did you discover? I would love to hear them!